How to build a happy family and improve the quality of life

In this blog post, we explore the importance of embracing small matters, considering major decisions, and creating small surprises in nurturing a harmonious and joyful family. By understanding that small matters are not about right or wrong, prioritizing consultation and consideration in major decisions, letting go of past grievances, and incorporating unexpected gestures into our lives, we can foster love, trust, and happiness within our families.

Small matters are not about right or wrong.

 

There is a story: Once, a girl stayed overnight at her friend's house. They went out for a late-night snack and returned to their place. The friend took out two boxes of fresh milk from the fridge, and they were about to drink when the friend's mother suddenly shouted, "Eat something first, you can't drink milk on an empty stomach!"

 

The girl was about to explain, but her friend made a gesture to stop her and quickly took out a piece of bread, splitting it in half and giving her half. Seeing them eating the bread, the friend's mother went off satisfied to do something else.The friend explained, "

 

If she can find a sense of accomplishment in such small matters, why do we need to tell her the truth? The truth is not important to her, nor does it have any meaning to us, it's just a matter of sharing half a bread."

 

In the past, there was a colleague in my workplace who would complain about trivial matters at home every morning: the mother-in-law's cooking not being nutritionally balanced, the husband not accurately measuring the formula...

 

She often said, "If someone does something wrong, I will definitely criticize them..."

 

However, one day, she suddenly stopped complaining and lost the previous glow on her face. Later, we found out that her husband had asked her for a divorce.

 

In a family, arguing about right or wrong in trivial matters and debating over insignificant details are most likely to breed resentment and exhaust enthusiasm.

Home is a haven, not a debating arena; it is a shelter, not a battlefield. By being tolerant in insignificant matters and knowing when to compromise on harmless details, we can preserve love and protect our home.

 

Major matters require consultation and consideration.

 

In a TV drama, there was a scene: The husband, Jack, wanted to make an investment, but his wife, Linda, was cautious and rejected his proposal. Although Jack seemed to give up on the surface, he secretly sold their car, borrowed money, and used their savings. In the end, he successfully raised enough funds for the investment.

 

After learning the truth, Linda angrily questioned Jack, "Did you discuss it with me? Am I still your wife?" The once affectionate couple developed a deep estrangement, leading to the breakdown of their relationship and parting ways.

 

In a marriage, there is a chilling feeling of "I treat you as family, but you treat me as a stranger." This means that one party is open and honest, while the other chooses to be secretive. Therefore, some people believe that Julie's reaction was not an overreaction because in major matters, when one party makes decisions without informing the other, it is an unfair situation.

 

Decisions made unilaterally reflect the dominance and selfishness of the person involved; actions taken without prior consultation hurt the other person's dignity and trust.

 

In important matters, more communication is needed to avoid risks and pitfalls; efforts should be made to communicate and have the opportunity to refine thoughts and elevate emotions; learning to negotiate will help find the optimal solution to problems. A family that works together, treats each other honestly, and values harmony can fear no storms or sudden downpours.

 

Do not dwell on the past.

 

In our daily lives, examples of dwelling on the past are not uncommon: in a romantic relationship, constantly complaining about not receiving a birthday gift, the wife's negligence on a certain matter, and the husband repeatedly blaming her, as if saying, "You've made a mistake once, why haven't you learned your lesson!"

 

This repeated mention of past mistakes not only exhausts people but also disrupts the harmony of intimate relationships. Old accounts, like "criminal records," record each other's "crimes."

 

People who frequently bring up the past, like holding a sharp knife, precisely stab at the other person's pain points. However, truly wise people understand that only by letting go of the shadows of the past can we move towards a new and beautiful life.

 

They know that constantly bringing up the past only intensifies conflicts and makes the relationship more tense. Therefore, they choose to face past mistakes with tolerance and understanding, striving to create a more harmonious and happy future.

 

If we insist on saying the most hurtful words to our closest loved ones, the once warm and cozy family may lose its happiness amidst countless old accounts. Such words, like poison arrows, deeply hurt the other person's soul and disrupt the harmony of intimate relationships.

Therefore, we should learn to control our emotions, avoid using sharp words to hurt those closest to us, and cherish and maintain the happiness and harmony of the family.

 

"Nobody is perfect." We don't need to keep picking at scabs, nor do we need to harshly blame past mistakes. Living calmly means forgiving oneself; seizing the present means cherishing it.

 

In the remaining days, may we all understand: small matters are not worth arguing or debating; the more we understand each other, the more harmonious our relationships will be; major matters require consultation and consideration, the more trust between both parties, the happier our lives will be; look lightly upon the past, the more tolerance from family members, the more prosperous the family will be.

 

Create some small surprises in life.

 

Life always has small surprises, even though they may be fleeting and insignificant, they can bring us joy and happiness for the whole day.

 

Although the forms of small surprises vary greatly, they all have one thing in common: unexpectedness. Because they are unexpected, they bring special happiness. Therefore, if we want to bring small surprises to ourselves or others, we need to have some creativity and imagination.

 

Sometimes, a simple gesture, a warm word, a thoughtfully prepared gift, or a uniquely shaped coffee mug can become an unforgettable surprise.

 

Overall, although small surprises in life may seem insignificant, they have a powerful impact, bringing us endless happiness and a sense of fulfillment.

 

Therefore, we should always maintain a sense of sensitivity and curiosity towards life, discover and create more small surprises, and make our lives more colorful.